@gbsills It's quite simple: next time you see someone doing something like this in vkc's replies, tell them to stop. If we keep on doing that, eventually people will get the message.
vkc is already doing all she can by posting things like the OP. It's time for you and me to step up.
@vkc Try to say „Yes“ and see how they will react ^^
@hobo_ahoi no, that's not funny. It's disturbing. People send me creepy things all the time- I don't need to add to it.
@vkc I don't know why I'm surprised that...particular phrase happens. I always expect harassment to be more crude. Sorry that is occurring.
@gedvondur most harassment is. But saying "marry me" to someone who isn't a willing participant in that discussion is also harassment.
I get one or two of these a day and it's an instant-block. I've had people get viscerally upset with me about it. Don't care. It's creepy!
Do I laugh, cry, or puke? I didn't invite this.
Most men either think this kind of behavior is acceptable, or think it's inevitable. Neither is true.
Dudes: stand up and stop it when you see it.
@vkc Not asking you to do the work of figuring out the "how" for us, but for other dudes reading this, what sort of intervention do you think works here?
I think just calling it creepy or insulting is accurate, but also insufficient for the men who aren't at a level of being able to intuit that already. I am lacking succinct phrases or analogies to explain *why* it is such, or maybe how it feels to be on the receiving side of such unwanted attention
@vkc People can be quite weird and creepy. It might work better for you if you just blocked them and didn't mention it. Otherwise, you are encouraging other weird/creepy people.
@gbsills NO. STOP THAT.
Telling me "don't share what happens" sweeps this shit under the rug. I need good people to STAND UP and GET IN THE WAY
@vkc I honestly don't see how we can.
@gbsills It's quite simple: next time you see someone doing something like this in vkc's replies, tell them to stop. If we keep on doing that, eventually people will get the message.
vkc is already doing all she can by posting things like the OP. It's time for you and me to step up.
Agreed, people do this for attention, but not negative attention, so if someone gives a robust response, then support that response.
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