"The truth in most heterosexual marriages is that he is never going to change. Men are taught not to view women as people, to prioritize their desires above others’ basic needs, and to never sacrifice for women. This is why they make the same arguments and excuses, and why the behaviors of sexist men are all so similar."
"If your husband relaxes while you work, systematically ignores your needs, demeans your body, emotionally abuses you, mistreats your children, or engages in other acts of abuse and unkindness, rest assured that he has swallowed patriarchal indoctrination whole. He will not change until he wants to—and as long as he is able to keep reaping the benefits of patriarchy, he won’t want to change."
