So you're just talking about S&M (Sadomasochism) kinks then not all kinks?
In that case, S&M can be practised consensually and safely, the notion that all S&M is abusive is a deep misunderstanding of the trust and communication involved.
Staying safe, (including mental health) and consensual while practising more dangerous kinks like S&M kinks is almost always at the center of every kink community I've come across
I'm not denying that people use S&M as an excuse to abuse people or that there are even spaces that excuse and glorify it, but that is not what S&M is about, people I've met in kink spaces IME are actually better at consent than non-kinky people.
For example there is a misconception that domination is something that just sort of sign up for with a random person who can immediately step over your boundaries and call it kink, that couldnt be further from the truth, domination is a delicate and trust-based relationship where in actuality the sub has all the control