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Alice McFlurry :bc:
@Alice@beige.party  ·  activity timestamp 3 years ago

When I was six, I asked for a pair of roller skates for Christmas. On Christmas morning, I opened my present to find a single roller skate.

I knew my parents didn’t have a lot of money, so I was still grateful and determined to make it work and I thanked my mom and dad and went outside to play with my roller skate.

I proceeded to “skate” along the curb with the roller skate on my right foot and my sneaker on my left foot and I was honestly having a blast when my mom came outside.

Mom: Uhhh…what are you doing?
Me: I’m roller skating, mom!
Mom: Yeah, but why are you only wearing one of your roller skates?
Me: There are TWO skates?!?

It turns out my mom wrapped the roller skates separately to give me more presents to open, but the other roller skate got buried in the Christmas morning shuffle and nobody noticed because I didn’t say anything about only receiving one roller skate.

Today marks ten years since I lost my mom and, every so often, I remember that day because it was so very her, doing whatever she could with what she had, even if it meant wrapping presents separately to make me feel like I had more.

If your mom is still around, hold her tightly. If she’s gone, remember the good times fondly.

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greem (Graeme, not Graham)
@greem@cyberplace.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 14 minutes ago

@Alice Yesterday was the first Christmas Day without my mum, who died in May.

There were tears, there was laughter, and a friend made us a fabulous pot for the kitchen that she's managed to transfer mum's recipe for cookies onto, accompanied by a fabulous letter explaining the process of making it and how her entire pottery class ended up invested in it. There wasn't a dry eye in the room.

She'd have loved the turkey, too. I got it absolutely bang on.

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staringatclouds
@staringatclouds@mstdn.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 30 minutes ago

@Alice No you have something in your eye 🥲

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blueorangeblue
@blueorangeblue@c.im replied  ·  activity timestamp 3 hours ago

@Alice that's lovely

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paul
@amiserabilist@beige.party replied  ·  activity timestamp 3 hours ago

@Alice

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Bowreality 🇨🇦
@Bowreality@mastodon.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 5 hours ago

@Alice I got them for Easter and my dad hid them so well I only found one 😅

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arosano 🇩🇰 🇮🇱
@arosano@mastodon.bsd.cafe replied  ·  activity timestamp 16 hours ago

@Alice ❤️

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Alison Meeks
@Alison@beige.party replied  ·  activity timestamp 17 hours ago

@Alice That's all kinds of awesome! What a great story. And yes hug em hard if you still have them.

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Lee Hauser
@lhauser@mefi.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 17 hours ago

@Alice This is my second Christmas without my mom. She wasn't the warmest and fuzziest person, but she loved us and took care of us, and I miss the person she was before dementia took her away for the last five years of her life.

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Curious Magpie 🕯️
@CuriousMagpie@beige.party replied  ·  activity timestamp 18 hours ago

@Alice BlahajHuggingHeart alice_party

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Jeremy le fou
@leftyknowitall@mastodon.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 19 hours ago

@Alice I just lost my sweet mom two months ago and I am still grieving. It’s so hard missing her. ❤️‍🩹

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Alice McFlurry :bc:
@Alice@beige.party replied  ·  activity timestamp 19 hours ago

@leftyknowitall Aw, Jeremy. I am so sorry. Sending all of my love your way!

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Jeremy le fou
@leftyknowitall@mastodon.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 19 hours ago

@Alice Thank you so much. Your post helped open my floodgate of tears today, and I needed that after holding it together for the last weeks. As I said at her memorial service, I talked about how my mom was always the first person to help someone who is struggling, and how we all need more of that energy now. Sending you and others all my good will.

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annie
@annie@social.lol replied  ·  activity timestamp 19 hours ago

@Alice I lost my Mom 18 years ago and I miss her every day. She was also good at making the most of whatever we had. The holidays were always special because she put so much heart into everything. What a gift to have had the time with her I did have. Hugs 🫂

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Artemis
@artemis@dice.camp replied  ·  activity timestamp 20 hours ago

@Alice

My mom recently told me about a Christmas when she had only $5 to spend on each of us (6!) kids.

I cried to hear her talk about it... She made Christmas so wonderful every year! I knew some years my parents weren't working with much, but she still found ways to make it special.

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Alice McFlurry :bc:
@Alice@beige.party replied  ·  activity timestamp 20 hours ago

@artemis Aw. I love this!

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Asbestos
@Asbestos@pnw.zone replied  ·  activity timestamp 20 hours ago

@Alice
that's just a great story on so many levels a d just a great all around post. that's a keeper

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@pineywoozle ‘s #3WordNote
@Pineywoozle@masto.ai replied  ·  activity timestamp 20 hours ago

@Alice Your a good egg, Merry Christmas. Those of us who won the mom lottery know just how lucky we are.

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Alice McFlurry :bc:
@Alice@beige.party replied  ·  activity timestamp 20 hours ago

Boosting this because Christmas always makes me think of my mom, but whenever this post goes around, I inevitably get people who are upset saying "not everyone had a good mom so don’t tell me what to do!"

I get it. I do.

If you had a bad mom, I hope you at least have someone who is good to you, so you can hug them instead, but please don’t come into the comments blasting me for trying to remind people to hug their moms because that's something I’m no longer able to do and I would give anything to be able to do that even once more.

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thefathippy
@thefathippy@mastodon.world replied  ·  activity timestamp 5 hours ago

@Alice

People can be such arses. "How dare you have a happy memory when I didn't?" FFS...

"No one else can be happy, because I'm not!"

[takes note of own words, promises to do better]

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Human Ghostwriter
@HG@beige.party replied  ·  activity timestamp 5 hours ago

@Alice

Imagine someone pulling that type of shit in any other conversational context.

"Great news, I'm having a baby!" "MUST BE FUCKIN NICE! I GOT CHEMICALLY CASTRATED BY THE GOVERNMENT FOR MY CRIMES!"

"I just ate a mozzarella stick I found on the sidewalk." "MUST BE FUCKIN NICE! MY DOCTOR SAYS IT'S A MATTER OF WHEN, NOT IF, MY CHOLESTEROL KILLS ME!"

"I read this interesting article." "MUST BE FUCKIN NICE. I BET YOU HATE ILLITERATE PEOPLE."

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I'm sorry for your loss, Alice. I'm sorry that people make the internet so stupid. I'm so glad you have good memories to visit. Hope you and Kev are having a merry xmas.

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Tracy Horton
@tracyhorton@pnw.zone replied  ·  activity timestamp 13 hours ago

@Alice While my Mother is still alive, she is not a good person and hides behind her fake religion to pretend all is perfect. I’m so happy for those who have a wonderful mother, sister, brother, father. As for myself, I mourn not for the loss of my mom, but the loss of a loving, caring family that never was. Cherish those memories. 🤗

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Cookiefiend
@LPerry2@mastodon.social replied  ·  activity timestamp 19 hours ago

@Alice My mom was intelligent, funny, witty and emotionally draining. She'd start wringing her hands over how awful Christmas was going to be in AUGUST, and she'd continue bemoaning how little we had or were going to have for 5 solid months. It was exhausting. I might miss her, but I sure don't miss the drama.

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Pinchy63 🇨🇦
@Pinchy63@mstdn.ca replied  ·  activity timestamp 20 hours ago

@Alice
My mom’s a very complicated woman and we’ve never had a close relationship. My dad died suddenly 7 yrs ago and I promised him I’d take care of her. Today she made me cry by giving me a mug with a saying on how much I mean to her. Our relationship will always be complicated but we are becoming closer than I ever thought imaginable. My dad’s death became a gift for my mom and me. I still miss his terribly but I’m grateful for this time with my mom.

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