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If your nervous system is always ramped up, it doesn’t take a whole lot to push you a little bit too far.
Roknrol
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Sometimes I really wish I had an official diagnosis of #autism. I know that self diagnosis is valid, and I know that I am #ActuallyAutistic but Impostor Syndrome is real.
I've spent all morning watching YouTube videos with titles like "10 signs you might be autistic!" even though I know all of this very well.
It is just nice sometimes to hear someone describe me while trying to describe an autistic person. *sigh*
Sometimes I really wish I had an official diagnosis of #autism. I know that self diagnosis is valid, and I know that I am #ActuallyAutistic but Impostor Syndrome is real.
I've spent all morning watching YouTube videos with titles like "10 signs you might be autistic!" even though I know all of this very well.
It is just nice sometimes to hear someone describe me while trying to describe an autistic person. *sigh*
If your nervous system is always ramped up, it doesn’t take a whole lot to push you a little bit too far.
Hey lovelies 🩷
Is anybody aware of an existing word in English or any other language for the intense pain of being misunderstood?
We're thinking specifically about the kinda of pain that neurospicy folks often feel from being constantly misunderstood by others, but particularly by non-neurospicy folks.
It's usually a cumulative pain that builds up over years or even decades, and factors into neurodivergent experiences like Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) 
Thanks in advance 🫶
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Here are some examples of the type of word we're looking for:
We lack sufficient knowledge of correctly combining ancient Greek words to find the correct words and forms for "being misunderstood" and "pain".
#neurodivergent #neurodivergence #PainOfBeingMisunderstood #linguistics #language #AuDHD #ADHD #ActuallyAutistic
Jayne :wales_flag:🇪🇺🏳️🌈
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How offensive it is to see the point at which a medical professional finally notices that a girl is autistic described as ‘a late onset of symptoms’.
Fork that.
We are born autistic & we remain autistic. It’s part of who we are. When or whether we are noticed depends on the extent to which we are punished for our sensitivities, how well we learn to hide them & whether our ways of coping with an overwhelming world are seen as problematic (as they often are in boys) or as just our being shy and cute (girls).
Autistic folx have been talking about this for ages. How slow the ‘experts’ are to catch up.
And they wonder why we don’t take them seriously 😹
Momgoth
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Like many autistic people I am not a fan of icebreakers, introducing myself, but I love lists. So I made a list of things that are important to me. I recently discovered this as a powerful tool for self reflection, but it can also help building connections with other people.
So if many things on this list resonate with you, feel free to send me a dm or give me a follow. We might have a lot to share with each other. 🙂
I put a CW on the list and added it as a subtoot to this post, because it became a very long list.
Boosts are welcome.
Like many autistic people I am not a fan of icebreakers, introducing myself, but I love lists. So I made a list of things that are important to me. I recently discovered this as a powerful tool for self reflection, but it can also help building connections with other people.
So if many things on this list resonate with you, feel free to send me a dm or give me a follow. We might have a lot to share with each other. 🙂
I put a CW on the list and added it as a subtoot to this post, because it became a very long list.
Boosts are welcome.
Elischeva
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Am I the kind of autist who practices what theyre going to say in future interactions? Why yes.
Am I the kind of autist who also practices what theyre going to type in a future email? Also yes, at night, in my head before sleep.
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD
How offensive it is to see the point at which a medical professional finally notices that a girl is autistic described as ‘a late onset of symptoms’.
Fork that.
We are born autistic & we remain autistic. It’s part of who we are. When or whether we are noticed depends on the extent to which we are punished for our sensitivities, how well we learn to hide them & whether our ways of coping with an overwhelming world are seen as problematic (as they often are in boys) or as just our being shy and cute (girls).
Autistic folx have been talking about this for ages. How slow the ‘experts’ are to catch up.
And they wonder why we don’t take them seriously 😹
I participated in a Cambridge University study about intersex traits and brain types, that randomly included a lot of questions about autism. The study really bothered me because the criteria for autism was "low empathy". And I did score freakishly low for empathy in the study.
The stereotype of autistic people lacking empathy was particularly painful for me growing up in the eighties and suspecting some kind of neurodivergence. I was intensely aware I couldn't read people's faces, and I couldn't intuit how other people were feeling. The idea that I had "no empathy" was haunting, but it also felt very true.
But I am older now, and this study doesn't make me feel shame, it makes me feel angry.
If you measure empathy by intuitive feels and vibes, I think many autistic people might score low. But that's not all of empathy. In fact, I don't know if that really is empathy. A lot of it is just speculation. How often are feelings misread, or we feel we are sustaining a mask and other people do not know our internal state?
And society is full of people with strong intuitive empathy who act in a cruel way to strangers and "others".
There's more to empathy than just an (often illusory) emotional resonance. Empathy is also cognitive - understanding other people through logic and ethical systems. And it is also a practice - empathy is also something you do, not just how you read a face. I believe I score just fine on those.
Fuck you, Cambridge University.
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So as an #actuallyAutistic person (I think), I do have an issue with touch - I am especially sensitive to it. Which is something of a pain.
But also, I think it is just that touch is very intense. I know that, when visiting somewhere, I like to touch the buildings, because I sense so much more about the place through that. I know that if I touch someone on their bare skin (say, in summer on the tube), it is powerful.
So it is not that I don't like touch. It is more that it is incredibly intense for me. So has to be just right.
Incidentally, in Quakers, we shake hands. I find this touch of skin to be very powerful.
@punishmenthurts "stuff everyone knows, high school stuff."
And then, when you counter that insult, they counter back with "I was trying to help, you dont have to be so mean"
and this common idea that they only dish out revenge to bad people... I get hurt too much from that. They assume I'm bad, which in their minds, validates their desire to be mean to me.
I hate revenge. I believe revenge is wrong 100%. Dishing out revenge is fate's job.
@GreenRoc
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the secret is spanking. Having been spanked, they all feel legitimately aggrieved, the aggression all feels like fighting, “back,” for the spanked, because they have beatings and control in their pasts that they had to absorb and couldn’t fight back against. So they have this unlimited fighting “back,” they do that is never enough.
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That’s the magic, the secret of the uberman, the dominators, they have socially engineered a sort of free energy for conflict, and endless source of anger, buried and hidden in their early and preverbal abuse.
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Then they called it Human Nature and said God caused it, and then they have to turn around and explain to every child how God caused it and how the beatings don’t cause it.
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So in the moment, that’s a real feeling for them.
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There is no fixing this shit in the moment. They’re trapped. The fix has to be to somehow stop the spanking. That’s what I know.
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That’s my #AntisocializationTheory .
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#ActuallyAutistic #ND #ActuallyAutistic
So as an #actuallyAutistic person (I think), I do have an issue with touch - I am especially sensitive to it. Which is something of a pain.
But also, I think it is just that touch is very intense. I know that, when visiting somewhere, I like to touch the buildings, because I sense so much more about the place through that. I know that if I touch someone on their bare skin (say, in summer on the tube), it is powerful.
So it is not that I don't like touch. It is more that it is incredibly intense for me. So has to be just right.
Incidentally, in Quakers, we shake hands. I find this touch of skin to be very powerful.
Am I the kind of autist who practices what theyre going to say in future interactions? Why yes.
Am I the kind of autist who also practices what theyre going to type in a future email? Also yes, at night, in my head before sleep.
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD